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4 best ways to overcome fear
4 best ways to overcome fear
Everyone has their own fears, even the bravest of people are afraid of tangible things like spiders or heights, or maybe you're afraid of failure, change, or anything else that's hard to overcome. Whatever it is that frightens you, you must learn to acknowledge its existence, confront it and control it to prevent it from holding you back and moving forward.
Method 1: Analyze your fear
1. Start acknowledging it
It is easy to ignore or deny our fears even to ourselves, especially in a society that places a strong emphasis on the importance of strength and courage. However, courage itself only appears when there is fear, and controlling emotions is the first step in controlling the situation.
Name your fear. Fears define themselves immediately and clearly, while it is sometimes difficult to name the causes of the feelings of anxiety lurking in our minds. Allow your fear to appear and give it a name.
Write down your concerns. Writing down your fears is a way of formally acknowledging that there is a problem that you want to eliminate. Having a note is a good way to monitor your progress as you work on controlling it, and it can also serve as a reference when you have another problem that you have to solve. You can only overcome your fears in A situation you encounter whenever you get in your way. And the sooner you make a decision, the sooner all your fears dissipate.
2. Identify the parameters of your fear
Approaching your fears as something that has a beginning and an end will help you acknowledge that you have sufficient capacity to contain them. If you can clearly see what your fears look like, you will be able to realize how much they affect you and thus deal with them more effectively.
Answer the following questions to better understand your fear:
What is the background to your fear? Did the fear start when you had a bad experience? Or is it related to circumstances that affected your childhood? And how long have you been affected by it?
What makes you afraid? Is it something as obvious as seeing a snake crawling? Or is it something like going through your career counselor's office and going into a whirlpool that reminds you of going through your high school hallway? Discovering all the things that frighten you will enable you to know how far that last extends.
How does your fear affect you? Does it motivate you to stay in bed instead of getting up and going to the lesson in which you are afraid to fail? Do you avoid visiting your relatives who live in a country other than the one in which you live because you are afraid of boarding a plane?
Is the source of your fear really dangerous? Fear may sometimes be a healthy feeling that protects us from various dangers by pushing us to avoid them. You must determine whether you have good reason to be afraid or if your fear is misplaced. For example, if you are afraid to ride a roller coaster in the amusement park even though all your friends are riding it, your fear may be hindering your life.
3. Visualize the desired outcome
Since you fully understand your fear now, think about exactly what you want to change, and even though you have a big goal and that is your desire to overcome your fear, you must set other tangible goals to help you achieve your primary goal, for example:
If you are afraid of commitment, you should date someone for more than a month.
If you are afraid of heights, go for a mountain hike with your school club.
If you are afraid of going to university, you should start by setting a goal of sending applications to three universities.
If you are afraid of spiders, take control the next time you see a spider in your bathroom.
Method 2: Control your fear
1. Try to gradually remove the fear
Most of the time, we feel afraid of something because we haven't been exposed to it enough. “Fear of the unknown” is a common phrase used to describe the automatic aversion that some people feel towards something different. If you feel afraid of something because of its ambiguity, try exposure to it little by little until you understand it better and that fear begins to disappear.
If you are afraid of spiders, you should start by looking at poorly drawn spider scribbles and in naive colors. Confidence As you go through each stage of proving to yourself that you can control your phobia, the latter will dissipate until it becomes a mere prick feeling in the worst circumstances.
If you are afraid of something less realistic like change, start by changing your daily routine a little bit. For example, add a morning jog in your daily schedule, or take the bus instead of the car when you go to work. You will see that you can handle whatever life throws at you, and confidence will help you You build to deal with major changes in your life.
2. Rely on direct confrontation
Sometimes, facing your fears head-on is the best way to overcome them, especially when it comes to a specific situation or person that you are afraid of. Simply facing the source of your fear will allow you to return to reality and realize that there is nothing worth this fear.
3. Imagine a worst-case scenario
What's the worst thing that could happen if you jumped off the board in the pool? Or if you made an appointment with your accountant to review your financial situation?
4. Be prepared to deal with failure
Facing your fear may be difficult, and it will not inevitably lead to you getting what you want, which is the immediate disappearance of fear. It is likely that you will have to fight several battles with your fear before you emerge victorious over it.
5. Don't hold back
Dealing with fear requires a certain amount of momentum. You may feel like giving up if you encounter some setbacks. Therefore, you have to maintain your resolve even if it seems impossible to overcome your fear, by taking these tips into consideration:

6. Don't confuse fear with destiny
Your fear of failure may lead you to think that you are not destined to work in the field of cooking as you have always dreamed of, or to leave your city, or to overcome your fear in social interaction. However, the truth is that you control your future, and you have the ability to choose the path What you want.Resist the temptation of hope and don't leave everything to fate.
7. Don't let anyone push you to back off
Pay attention to those who try to feed your fears by discouraging you and feeding you negative comments. Surround yourself with those who want you to overcome your fear and reach your desired goal.
8. Be bold
Boldness has magic-like abilities, which is a wonderful thing that makes you do things you've never been used to before. Doing the same thing and waiting for different results is a wrong rule that pushes you to follow a deadly routine that feeds your fears and locks you into your fears. That is why it is necessary to have the courage to break this cycle and come out of your shell.
Method 3: Change your thinking in the direction of fear
1. Make your fear your passion
The same things that make us fear may excite us or even our passion, which is why some people enjoy extreme sports, horror movies, and swimming with sharks on summer vacation. Try to reframe your fear in a positive way and visualize how exciting it can be. By seeing your fear as a source of energy, you can then accept its role in your life.

Know the source of your fear as much as you can. Why does he have so much control over you? And what can you learn from him? Try to face your fear with this new look, do you feel any difference?
Many people have succeeded in overcoming their fears and making them a source of joy. Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, was afraid of public speaking, but she made her living by speaking with Thousands of people from all over the world.
2. Start seeing your fear as an opportunity
Fear can be used as a means to help us identify and effectively solve the problems we suffer. It is the guiding guide and the red flag that warns us when something is wrong. Once the discomfort caused by the first wave of fear has passed, analyze it to see what can be learned.
When you feel afraid of something unknown, take that fear as a signal that you need to get to know someone or a certain situation in a better way.
If you feel intimidated by a deadline or occasion, make this fear an opportunity to plan and prepare yourself, whether it is preparing for an exam, rehearsing a play, or rehearsing a speech.
If you are afraid of water, think about the possibilities that will open to you if you overcome this fear, and make the idea of swimming and sailing with your friends an incentive for you to make your fear an opportunity to enrich your life.
Method 4: Create a place for fear in your life
1. Let yourself get scared sometimes
There is no way to completely eliminate fear. Fear is a legitimate feeling just like happiness or sadness, and it contributes to building character and teaches us to act bravely.
2. Don't be too hard on yourself
Fear is a natural response to situations out of our control, and feeling it does not mean anything other than being a human being of flesh and blood.
3. Don't put pressure on yourself
If you feel very afraid of something, you can often avoid it like spiders, then you do not need to force yourself to overcome this fear. The important thing is to overcome the fears that hinder you in your life, and therefore, you do not have to put pressure on yourself because of those Fears that have no real impact on you.
4. Celebrate your victory
Don't wait until you have completely conquered your fear to celebrate your success, be proud of every step, whether you tell a story to a group of people at a party, or see a spider and realize you didn't feel like running away, or take a trip out of town on your own for the first time. By overcoming even a little bit of your fear, you will be able to face the next fear head on.

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